She was pretty cool... But my ex's girlfriend is a cunt!I received the loveliest of emails from my ex's girlfriend today- a nice little attack on me, myself, and my character. Thought I would share some of my favorite lines:
...... but oh I forgot you own the kids he is only a sperm donor and a monthly check!!
Don't forget the reason he is able to pay his child support and help with other expense is because he lives with me ........
...... he does not acknowledge being the twins father,(pretty sad ha!!) I wonder why !!
....... you seem to get pregnant every time, it seems to me that you was trying to trap him.
....... as per paternity test it will be requested along with visitation /share custody and request that the children would not be able to leave the country .
la, de, da, the bitch is gonna die.
I don't understand people anymore, I just don't.... This woman has never met me, probably has never heard once ounce of truth about me, and she finds it necessary and somehow appropriate to send me an email to tell me how she feels about me. I wish my ex had the balls to tell her to mind her own business. I wish my ex would be man enough to own up to the truth that is/was our relationship. He doesn't see the kids, cuz honestly he doesn't want to. But I am sure he paints a picture of me being some controlling bitch who uses her kids as leverage or some sort of bargaining tool. But I am not and I don't......
Poor judgement on my part, led me to where I am now. I knew when I met him, he was all wrong, but he was the polar opposite of everything I was drawn to in a man. All of my past loves were horrible wrecks and I was tired of crashing and burning. I saw some sort of potential in him, an air of confidence and determination. But now in hindsight, I realize my contacts must of expired because that air was merely a haze and where there is haze, there is often fog and fog can lead to a nasty accident. I knew it when I let him slip that pretty diamond ring on my finger, but I already had a little being growing in my belly and I wanted to give her a family. I watched my own parents slip and fall into selfishness and betrayal and I wanted so desperately to give her the happily ever after that I never had. So I figured if I was the best wife and mother I could possibly be the love and the marriage would just fall into place. It never did, and I never lived up to the ideal he had in his head either. His attention swayed quickly and he spent most of his time drunkenly waking in other people's beds. I left my Southwest home and my life and I drove across the country my little one happily dancing in her car seat singing Rock this Town as we drove across the US. We moved to a new town and decided to make a new life. But the bastard followed me, and pleaded he could give me everything I ever wanted. I gave it a try, and then I gave him a son. He left me a week before his arrival telling me he loved another , and then he disappeared. I struggled and toughened up, and faced life on my own . I had a wonderful friend and some great family support, and two little faces that gave meaning to everyday. I realized that I could really kick some ass and be strong if I had to. I was happy and successful. Then three years later and completely out of the blue, he showed back up, wanting to play Dad, ready to grow up, ready to face the music and accept responsibility. I was cautious and kept my distance. I had moved on and had fallen for another but was feeling that relationship slip away, I felt desperate and helpless. Some twisted part of me kinda hoped I could rectify it all and give my kids a family, a nice little portrait with a dog and a cat, and a little house with a picket fence. Some shots of tequila and a single drunken moment gave way to two more in a single shot. He left the next week and I faced a long difficult pregnancy all by myself. I struggled and worked two jobs and I made it through. I now have four little monkeys and they are the best little things in the whole wide world. Sure we have ups and downs, but man, we have a lot of fun. So in moments like this where fatherhood is defined as "a sperm donor and a monthly check," I have to question, Where was he when I had to rush little ones to the Emergency room at 2 am, or when I had to clean shit off the wall, or throw up out of shag carpeting? Where was he for playoff games and graduations? Or visits to the zoo, or birthday celebrations? I hate that it gets twisted into being something negative about me? I hate that this bitch thinks she knows something about me and my life... I hate that she thinks she knows what is best for my kids, I hate that she thinks her behaviour is ok. I hate that she is a 6 hour drive away, cuz I would totally slice the bitch........
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I know I have no place commenting here, but it kinda does sound like you own the kids and he's only a monthly check. Fuck him for taking that path all on his own, and fuck him again for talking smack about the mother of his kids in order to make his new owner feel better.
Can you tell someone has father issues?
Shroom-meister: First of all: you rule that bitch. Secondly: nobody is denying you could slice the fuck out of her. Third: you're the winner in this whole scenario. You have all the beautiful kids. That's the best possible thing ever. Fourth: nice casual use of the word cunt. I approve.
Love you loads.
I feel so pathetic suffering from my exlove compared to what you've been through. I truely admire you for being so strong and still such a wonderful and charismatic mother.
Regarding that woman. It's the easiest and the worst to use your kids, which u truely love, as a canvas for her nonsensish accusations. I bet every human can imagine that children are something that you will always love and that will always be the most precious ever.
Frankly, I can understand you being outrageously angry, I just shrugg, it's poor, it's tasteless and it's stupidly dull! Fuck her. And fuck him. (Don't forget contraception).
mommy always said i should have become a lawyer because im always fightin for whats right. you had better save every email she has ever sent you. print it and file it away in a pretty little manila folder because one day, its all gonna explode up in her face and you will just have to sit back and let her take what Karma has to give her.
by the way... whats your kids think about her and their father? people always think kids are stupid but they arent. they know. even the young ones know when someone is trying to bring down a parent. even when its another parent. trust me i know. kids learn from the actions or lack of from their parents and the people their parents bring around. so if this woman has been around your kids... then they probably already know shes a piece of shit.
she dug her own grave.
samuraifrog- writing this allowed me to release the anger and to move on from it. your comment got me thinking though, I guess in these circumstances we have to accept it for what it is. and you know what despite it all, I am happy and I have some healthy happy kids- so let em both rot in their little pissy lives- I can't be bothered with it anymore....
Chrissy- thanks sweetie- I rule all bitches what you talking about.... ps secret-I love the word Cunt- dramatic factor and all....
Bubbly- thanks - I thought it was a low blow for sure- I imagine her being a very insecure and unhappy person to be lashing out at me. I was extremely hurt and angry at first- but now I am just over it.... she doesn't know me- whatever....
Yasamin- yes I agree even the littlest ones know or at least can feel the tension going on. I try my hardest to keep them out of it all and provide a consistent and happy home for them. Just cuz she wants to play house with my kids- doesn't mean I am about to undo all the hard work I have done. He doesn't request to see them- so whatever... but good advice sweetie- gonna print that out and save it for sure....
Ah Shrooms, I'm so glad that you blogged about this and got it off of your chest, but just in case you still feel like kicking some ass ... I'm so there with the chola attitude to help you out.
You take care of little-miss-thinks-she-knows-whats-going on-bitch, (talking shit to you again) and I'll beat the ever loving shit out of your ex.
You know what, scratch that. I'll beat the shit out of him just for treating you that way.
oh, god, just slice the cunty-whore! its so sad that there are people like her out in the world, i mean, what did you ever do to her? i think she feels threatened that her man has beautiful children with another woman....
....she's probably so insecure...jealous whore!
That's pretty fucked up. Why would she even be writing you? What could it possibly mean to her. No matter, you came, you blogged, you survived. Because you're a good person and mom.
Sherry- wierd, but blogging this really helped me put it in perspective and gain some clarity. Thanks for being such a sweetie and a good friend! us cholas gotta stick together- seriously I think when we got jumped in we kinda signed up for it forever...
syandiedtoday- you know I totally think that is the root of it all, she is insecure and this was her pathetic attempt to try and get the upperhand- whatever.... it didn't work (ok it did- but just for a day) nothing changes, she is stuck in a crappy relationship and I don't have those kind of silly worries anymore...
Dale- she figured out the password on my ex's email. I am not sure what inspired the email.... thanks for thinking I am a good person- I do treat you well, even if I keep you locked in that cage....
We've kinda had this discussion before so you know where I stand.
We should end just go on a cross-country an ex killin' spree.
I'll do yours if you'll do mine.
So THAT'S your phone number. Now I can call you and leave you a message -- meeeowww! ;)
You're going to get laid soon. I just know it. I can sense. My psychic powers are telling me it's gonna be awesome....
sorry, that comment was meant for the post above. Blogger is all fucked up today....Can't comment properly. Speaking of fucked up -- that bitch is a serious piece of work. I have someone in my life I hate that much and it sucks. Hang in there and try not to let her get to you (do a good kickboxing class -- it helps me immensely...imagine your kicking and punching HER).
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